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POWER & CONTROL VS. EQUALITY
Five Areas of Abuse and/or Inequality:
Recognizing the Warning Signs:
Remember...future behaviour is predicted on past behaviour unless your
partner/husband seeks professional guidance to understand that his reactions
to your behaviour, is not about you. It's about his own feeling of self-hatred,
self-betrayal, etc.
Men, for the most part, do not take responsibility for their own abusive
behaviour until they are either faced with a crisis and/or are mandated by the
courts. If you love your partner/husband, create a crisis that is both safe and
logical - think it through until you are sure you can follow through with the plan.
Abuse is not perpetuated by women. Of all abusive situations, 98% is
committed by men.
If you are being physically or sexually abused, make sure that you:
If you are being emotionally, mentally, spiritually and/or financially
abused:
Source: Safety Planning for Women who are Abused, Government of Ontario.
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Five Areas of Abuse and/or Inequality:
- Physical
- Sexual
- Emotional & Psychological
- Spiritual
- Financial
Recognizing the Warning Signs:
- Your partner could be charming, but he refuses to let you leave the house
- He lies to make himself look good and exaggerates his good qualities
- He puts you down in public
- He does all the talking and dominates the conversation
- He alienates you from friends and family
- He sees himself as the victim and acts depressed
- He acts as if he owns you
- He acts like he is superior and more valuable because he is the provider
- You may be apologetic and make excuses for his aggression or rage
- You are nervous talking when he is around
- You are often sick and miss work due to issues at home
Remember...future behaviour is predicted on past behaviour unless your
partner/husband seeks professional guidance to understand that his reactions
to your behaviour, is not about you. It's about his own feeling of self-hatred,
self-betrayal, etc.
Men, for the most part, do not take responsibility for their own abusive
behaviour until they are either faced with a crisis and/or are mandated by the
courts. If you love your partner/husband, create a crisis that is both safe and
logical - think it through until you are sure you can follow through with the plan.
Abuse is not perpetuated by women. Of all abusive situations, 98% is
committed by men.
If you are being physically or sexually abused, make sure that you:
- Call the police
- Document and date all abusive behaviour and instances
- Make sure to tell someone you trust about the situation
- Make a plan of escape
- Make sure you keep put personal identification for you and your children
in a safe place
If you are being emotionally, mentally, spiritually and/or financially
abused:
- Make informed decisions - Know what your rights are
- Explore all options - Seek counselling for yourself first
- Know what you want - Your body will tell you when you have had enough
- Do not try to change him - You can only change yourself
- You are not responsible for his behaviour
- Become emotionally strong - Do not react - You will deplete your own
energy - Staying in the relationship because of the children is far more damaging
for the children - It is better for your children to have one healthy parent,
than two unhealthy ones - Do not make life-altering decisions based on your fear, resentment,
revenge, etc. - Remember you have the right to be who you are - You have the right to
be happy
Source: Safety Planning for Women who are Abused, Government of Ontario.
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| The Rose The rose is a reflection of our Spiritual growth The thorns represent the challenges Essential for our life’s journey As we overcome each obstacle We will, inevitably, bloom— for humanity Has been on this journey for eons The appreciation that everything We do, think, feel and believe has an Impact on our state of well-being And the world around us Self-awareness is necessary Before growth Transformation can only occur When we are open to new Ideas and philosophies But more importantly Letting go of our false ego will Awaken us to our Higher Self Liberating us from Fear, Guilt & Self-betrayal! Rita Stillo |
If you are a women in any abusive situation and are ready to seek help, there are several 24 hour crisis centres in York Region. Click Here for Information |
